Dating the wrong guy quotes
“A good partnership is not so much one between two healthy people (there aren’t many of these on the planet), it’s one between two demented people who have had the skill or luck to find a non-threatening conscious accommodation between their relative insanities.” This is probably my favorite quote from this piece, about how we end up marrying the wrong people.
The author posits – and I agree – that most of us are completely blind to our own flaws, and can go much of our lives without ever getting a glimpse of the truth: Whenever more casual relationships threaten to reveal the ‘difficult’ side of our natures, we tend to blame the partner – and call it a day.
In a sense, you seek comfort in that familiar scenario – even if it is one filled with angst.
Many today have ended up with the wrong man because they compromised and married the wrong one!Why do great women pick people who treat them poorly? When you don’t get the love and attention you want, it may seem natural to give more.Smart, beautiful, incredible individuals – who give 110% to a man who in return, are only half-vested, part-time, and approach the relationship with a “me”, not “we” mentality. You invest more – only to find yourself more disappointed, depleted and feeling insignificant with each attempt to create/repair the connection. Jeremy Nicholson calls the principle of “sunk costs”.Think again.“We need to know the intimate functioning of the psyche of the person we’re planning to marry.We need to know their attitudes to, or stance on, authority, humiliation, introspection, sexual intimacy, projection, money, children, aging, fidelity and a hundred things besides.